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Get A Grip On Your Emotions

Think of your emotions as people that life sends you. When these emotions get to you, they knock on the door of your house (heart and mind) and offer you feelings. If you open the door to the emotion that life sends you, it will try its best to convince your to take the feelings it holds in its hand. Feelings are the gifts that emotions offer you. If you have ever asked yourself ‘Why am I feeling this way?’, the reason is because you opened the door to the emotion that life sent you. If you do not want to feel a certain way, then you have two options: (A) Don’t open the door to the emotions life sends...

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Sex is Not Proof That He Loves You

A group of friends and I get together every Thursday to talk about life and relationships. This past Thursday, Ally told us about a date she had with a guy from her church. Being that she had heard only good things about him, she was comfortable with him picking her up from her home. The date started well enough. Dinner was good and the conversation was even better. Seeing that the night was still young and that he had been a perfect gentleman, she invited him in to her place for a quick coffee. Not along after she made coffee, he suggested they take the conversation upstairs. When she objected to his request, telling him that she was not comfortable,...

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A Love Letter to Christian Men Who Desire A Thriving Marriage

God, without a doubt, outdid Himself when He made her. Eve, my wife to be left me breathless when I saw her. When I finally caught my breath, the first words out of my mouth were ‘wow…man’. So, I dropped the ‘w’ and called her ‘woman’ as a tribute. I was love drunk and I knew it. So did she. I remember our early days fondly. They were absolutely wonderful! But those days did not last. The wonder went by the wayside the day we both decided to disobey God. I will never forget that day. It was the day I rejected responsibility, abdicated spiritual leadership, and threw my wife under the bus — blaming her for my disobedience to God. In...

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When Making Your Wife Happy Makes Your Life Miserable

Have you ever heard the phrase ‘Happy Wife, Happy Life’. I first heard it a few years ago. The thought behind the saying is this: If a man makes his wife happy, he will live a happy life. It sounds good and sounds like words of wisdom, but is it? Is it true that if your woman is happy, you will live a happy life? God knew this question would come up, so he helped us answer it ahead of time in the biblical story of Adam and Eve. As the biblical story goes, Adam and Eve (the first people on earth) lived with God and each other in perfect love and harmony. Then one day, Eve speaks to a...

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A Love Letter to Single Christian Women Who Desire to Be Married

Dear Single Christian Woman, If there was ever a woman who did not have any hope of getting married, it was me. My first husband was dead. I did not have a penny to my name. And I was going to a land where people from my country, especially the women, were not welcomed. If you are wondering why our women were not welcomed, let me take you back in time: A few hundred years back, women from my country, Moab, were sent to the men of Israel to seduce them with sex and idolatry. Although hidden through fancy words, the women basically propositioned the men with this: I will only allow you to sleep with me if you turn...

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